As the famous introduction of Caitlyn Jenner dies down, and the articles and judgements start to appear, I can’t help but feel the need to contribute. I have to be very honest with you guys. At first, this was not something I cared about. Not because I think it’s wrong, but because I didn’t know how to handle it. No, Bruce Jenner was not someone close to me but he is someone that is wildly known. He is either Bruce Jenner the Olympian or Bruce Jenner the guy that stood out from the Kardashian clan. Either way, he has been a part of the media and the entertainment culture for years.
My initial thought from this entire thing was: No, he can’t do that. He can’t do that, not to his children. Not only is kids but his grandchildren too! And what about his ex-wife? You don’t have to be a fan of Kris Jenner to feel sympathy for her on this situation. It’s a hard one. She is essentially saying good bye to someone she loved and knew for a very long time. That right there made me angry (for a moment). It shifted my perspective and as I watched the Bruce Jenner special, my anger towards him grew like a rapid fire. I had it in my head that he was selfish and honestly that this was a joke. I couldn’t even watch because I was just over it. But then, I stopped. I realized that I was clouded with judgement and misunderstanding so I put my judgements aside and looked at the big picture.
This goes off what I mentioned last week about loving yourself. Imagine the struggle everyday of waking up and looking at yourself in the mirror. Your eyes see one thing, but your heart see’s someone else. Maybe you don’t know that feeling, but other people do. At the end of the day it is their choice to make something out of it and if at 65 , Bruce Jenner wants to do something, he can. He did what he had to do to raise his kids and be the father figure they needed and now with 65 years of life behind him, he can finally live a life that he felt that he was supposed to live. Although I still have questions about it, one thing I’m sure of is that Caitlyn Jenner (no longer Bruce) is brave. Being openly Gay, Lesbian, and Transgender is not easy. It’s a struggle not only to the person but to the other people around them. I commend those who have dug deep within themselves to find the courage to be who they are. I commend Caitlyn Jenner on coming out to the rest of the world, when she is under such a massive microscope. Is this a media stunt or a way to gain media attention? No, absolutely not. Caitlyn Jenner is making massive moves for the other people that you don’t see everyday, going through the exact same thing. And while we want to look at Caitlyn Jenner as a hero, we need to admire other Transgenders who have made moves under the spotlight like Laverne Cox (OITNB) and Lana Wachowski (director of all your favorite movies: The Matrix, V for Vendetta, and Cloud Atlas).
At the end of the day, no matter what your religious beliefs, or just your beliefs in general tell you, remember that love comes first. We are all made from the same creator and we are all made with a purpose. Everyone of us is here to make a difference and that is what Caitlyn Jenner is doing. Remember to always love your neighbors and show respect. You don’t have to support it but you don’t have to put it down either. Treat others the way you would want to be treated. Remember love, kindness, and courage go a lot further than judgement.
With all that being said, I’m not asking you to change your mind. I’m not asking that you understand Caitlyn Jenner or other Transgenders. I just want everyone to realize that we can’t control other people. We can’t aid in their decision making process so at the end of it all, it’s up to us to either accept it or turn away from it. If you’re going to turn away, do it respectfully. There is no need to open fire on clouded judgements. The Internet would be such a better place if we didn’t have a bunch of people talking negative about the lives of others. I know this is a controversial topic and I am not up for a debate on something I don’t understand. But, I’m pretty confident that I know the power of love and so that is what I am going to do. I’m going to love those who struggle with acceptance and I’m going to love those who don’t. Either way, I want to be someone that I’m proud of. You should too.
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