(and not in a I am one sexy, awesome, piece of human kind of love yourself.)
There is something so sweet about love. However, it doesn’t have to mean heart shaped cards and pretty red roses. It doesn’t always need be celebrated with someone else, although that may be nice at times. I think the most essential and most crucial love you can share is the love that you share with yourself. Once you put energy in that specific relationship , the rest may come a little easier.
When I was a little girl, I instantly fell in love with love. By age 5, I was crushing on every boy in my class, even the kid who put boogers under his desk, swoon. Valentines was, and still is, one of my favorite days..even if I was left without a special valentine. I anticipated the fun little cards that came in the box set, I begged for a cute shirt that had a some sort of valentine decor, and I rocked my valentine gear on February 14th like a boss. But even so, over the course of several years, I was never the girl with the valentine (not that I didn’t want one..but I think there is a law against forcing someone to like you). In that time, I learned a lot about myself. I learned that at the end of the day, loving you is best thing you could feed yourself. Looking at who you are in the mirror and valuing the person that you see is one of the healthiest things to do. While doing so, you may have learned that over time you have built an armor of love around you that is not only satisfying but strong.
That’s why when high school came around and it was time for dating silly boys, I was prepared. I had learned to laugh at myself and love myself at the same time. And when my heart was broken from time to time, I had to remember that I was the true keeper of my happiness. I had learned to pick up the pieces and build myself back up again. However, the love you share with someone else can often be so powerful that you forget the power of the one that started it all.
Because of this, you can lose sight of who you were and who you are. We often let other people and things control how we feel about ourselves, which can put a strain on your relationship with you as well as your platonic or romantic relationships. I know for me, I use the concept of a romantic relationship to describe how I found a way to love who I was but I know that’s not often the case. Sometimes you go through a bad friend break up which to me, is the worse. Aside from that, some people struggle with loving themselves on a day to day basis, no matter who loves them. That’s why I hope this message can be spread among different stories and reach different people. The important thing is, at the end of the day, it’s a key thing to acknowledge how capable you are of being your own biggest fan no matter who or what the case is.
I want to send this message out to any boy, girl, woman, or man out there who struggles everyday with who they are. There will be people who will break your heart, stomp on you, call you names, and throw you to the ground. There will be people who will walk into your life through a door, ever so lightly, but leave with a bulldozer and your windows shattered. Then who is left? You are. You are still there, you are still here, and you are still present. Even if it’s not relationships you struggle with, remember how strong you are. If you are dealing with an inner struggle that is invisible to the rest of the world, remember to find your worth because it exist. Once you figure that out, loving yourself comes easy and we are all capable of it. We are worth something and we all have a purpose. No matter who decides to love you, the love you have for yourself is the glue that holds you together. So remember, the best love out there is the one that you’ve created all on your own.
Thanks for reading!
P.S. Did you know that May is Mental Health Awareness month? If you know of anybody who struggles with their own Mental Health, remind them that they are loved. Thank you.